I know I have talked about this on a lot of my blog platforms in one way or another but it is one that is most relevant to right now. One I think most (if not all) of us feel at one point or another. Mummy guilt!
It’s a bitch! It creeps up on us when we don’t expect it too, when we are going about our every day, when we are working, when we are trying to sleep!
I feel it a lot – I feel it for Rhemy and how quickly she had to grow up. For the moments she needs me and I can’t be there for her because her sister needs me more, for the times I realise I expect her to be older than she really is and for making her share us before she really had too. I feel it for Miami because she doesn’t get the attention she deserves, because I feel like I haven’t got the time to give to her like I gave to Rhemy, I feel it because I can’t always be there when she needs me to be and that she always has to share us.
I blame myself when Rhemy is naughty – even though I know it’s the naughty twos! I blame myself when Miami isn’t crawling – even though I know kids do things in their own time! I blame myself when they are hurting and think of ways I could have prevented it – even though I know I really couldn’t have! I blame myself when I miss things when I’m at work – even though I know being at work means I can give them more.
Let me tell you though that mummy guilt subsides when I see them playing together, Miami laughing so hard and Rhemy being so kind. When Miami lights up when I see her and Rhemy tells me she loves me. When they hold hands because they want too or when Rhemy tries to show Miami how to crawl.
Mummy guilt is a bitch but deep down I know I’m doing this mama thing right!
Our five month old, has just began rolling and can even sit for small intervals. We are so proud of her milestones and it is so wonderful to see our little offspring develop and progress daily.
What we don’t want is our cub to roll in her sleep while still in her Swaddle Up. So a week or so ago, we began the tedious task of transitioning her. The transition swaddles from Swaddle Up are genius and have made the whole ordeal much easier then we thought it would be.
That doesn’t mean it hasn’t been without its complications. The first few nights after we removed the first arm we had a very interrupted sleep, with Rhemy waking herself up constantly. It was tiring but a success so we moved onto the second arm and that is where we are right now…
3.30am and wide awake, talking to herself and truly doing anything to keep from drifting off to the land of nod. While I know past experiences have shown me after a couple of nights of this, we will be through the worst of it. I can’t say I’m not missing my sleep or a little grumpy that my little miss has decided that 3.30am is not only when she will be wide awake but so will her Mumma.
How did you transition? What tactics worked? What didn’t?
Let’s share and compare, below in the comments.
Naming our baby was a much harder task then either of us expected. My husband likes names slightly more conservative and myself, a little out there. We “vitoed” each other so many times, I thought that was going to end up being her name.
We settled on multiple names, to then change our minds a week later (okay my mind, I changed my mind)! There really was some goodies in there, so we have no intention of sharing, you know just incase the next one is a girl.
I have read so many articles relating to the trends of baby names, but I have to admit this this last trend has taken the cake. According to Baby Center #instagrambabies is now a thing! Parents are naming their children after Instagram filters and other related editing apps. Now while some of the filter names are usable, Willow anyone? I am interested to see where our next naming inspiration comes from.
I completely understand the attraction of using a name from somewhere the majority wouldn’t expect, but I do have to wonder where do we begin to look next?
Now I have to say, I support everyone’s decision to name their child whatever their heart desires, it has long been the case that what one couple thinks is beautiful, another does not!
So I ask you, what do you think?
Is your next baby going to be called Valencia or is there somewhere else we can look for the names of future children?