An open letter to the random man in the Doctor’s waiting room

To the random man in the Doctor’s waiting room,

Somehow we have both managed to be sitting in the same waiting room for the obstetrician. You are here with your partner and I am here with my entire family. We don’t live in this town you see, so we do not have the luxury of having our children minded, they have to attend whatever appointments we have. Seeing that the obstetrician we are seeing delivered both of our babies, I don’t think she will mind too much that they have accompanied us today.

You seem to be bothered though, my eight week old is happy enough but does demand some attention, to be honest what eight week old doesn’t? My sixteen month old has travelled six hours in the car and then been made to wait for an appointment half an hour longer then we had hoped. She is restless but well behaved, she wants her parents to read her stories and to play with the older children in the waiting room. She only wants to say hello and then she moves on. She is a young child, a baby even, a simple hello and then continuing on with conversation is all that is needed, not snide remarks about how close our children are.

You see, random man in the waiting room, it’s really none of your business how close they are. You do not have to have children close together, you don’t have to have any if you choose. That’s the thing with freedom of choice, its one we all have. We are parents of a young family, who are treading through the first few years of being Mum and Dad. We are happy and our children are loved, supported and provided for. Their age gap is really none of anyone’s concern, especially someone like you, someone we have never met. I didn’t need to hear your remark to your partner and to be honest neither did anyone else is the waiting room. Your partner seemed uncomfortable like she knew I had heard, but you didn’t seemed concerned at all.

I’m a strong girl, and to be honest, I really couldn’t give a shit, what others think of me or my life choices, but others may. I have bounced back from my pregnancy and giving birth well, but others may not. Words hurt random man, and I hope you think twice before expressing your opinions of another so they can hear in the future.






He may be my best friend, but he doesn’t bring out the best in me! 

Now before you start scolding me, I think I best explain the title of this blog post. As you may have guessed it is referring to my husband. We have been together since I was a wee fourteen year old. He is without a doubt my best friend, my shoulder and my biggest supporter. But he doesn’t bring out the best in me, I do. 

I’m a traditional girl, I am all for the big wedding, the white dress and taking my husband’s name but I do wonder sometimes if some memes and old thought patterns really are sexist in the way they define important aspects of relationships. How I feel may not be everyone’s opinion, in fact I could be completely in the minority. However I don’t believe you can look into another person to bring out the best in you, especially if you can’t bring it out of yourself.

It’s not about self love, however that does help and should definitely be something you aspire to achieve before you can expect someone else to love you. It’s about being comfortable with who you are, being able to support yourself in your accomplishments and your failures. It’s about realising that being in a relationship is not about being dependant on someone, it’s about co-existing. It’s about being your best self because you want too. I don’t mean that you shouldn’t be with someone who you believe helps you to be a better version of yourself but you shouldn’t be dependent on someone to do something for you that you should do for yourself. At the end of the day no relationship is perfect and they shouldn’t be. You spend a lot of time with yourself, so you may as well enjoy the company!  

My husband doesnt bring out the best in me, I do. (And I wouldn’t have it any other way) 
Until next time 


Best planners for 2017

Welcome back to Being Called Mum! We have been missing in action for a couple of months  now but here we are with a new look and a new post for 2017. We will be posting weekly from now on and would love to hear suggestions from you, our readers, on what you would like us to write about. 

But first we have a post on the best planners we have found for 2017. It is a little late but many of us aren’t very organised and will still need to track one down. Here’s the top 5 for 2017 that you can still get your mits on for the new year.

1. Erin Condren Life Planner 

Erin Condren has a mass following online and for good reason, her life planners are beautifully made and have everything one may ever need in a planner. You can customise the covers, add your name, pick the layout and the colour scheme. They are expensive, with the cheapest option beginning at $50 USD but a lot of people would say it’s totally worth it. You can get the Life planner here 

2. Personal planner 

Another great option for those of you who want to be able to customise their planner. You can chose your cover, your layout, the colour scheme and can add colouring pages, suduko or note pages to the back of the book. There are 5 size options, with the smallest (mini) starting at $29.95 and the largest (A4) priced at $59.95. All with free shipping you’d be a fool not to check them out!
3. Busy bitch daily planner 

This daily planner is full of sass and colourful illustrations. It contains packing lists, shopping lists and conversion charts. It’s a planner for those of you who want a daily layout with a humourous twist. Priced at $32.00 it as affordable as it is beautiful. Head over to That Effortless Bitch to purchase now.
4. Amelia Lane Paper life designer compact 

This planner is a gorgeous option for people who are looking for something that has sections for to do lists, finances, vision boards and weekly scheduling. Priced at $44.95 and available in sky blue and black. Head over to Amelia Lane to purchase before they sell out! 
5. Kikki K sweet diary 

This diary is for those of you who want something visually pleasing to plan your week in. Kikki K offers this sweet diary in A5 form for $34.95 and can be purchased here. However if sweet really isn’t your style I’d strongly suggest to head to Kikki K anyway as they offer options from a minimalistic diary to full on agendas so there really is something for everyone.
So there we have it, a round up of the best planners for 2017. Leave a comment below with what you are using to plan your new year, a suggestion for upcoming posts or anytjing else you’d like to share


Until next time,