He may be my best friend, but he doesn’t bring out the best in me! 

Now before you start scolding me, I think I best explain the title of this blog post. As you may have guessed it is referring to my husband. We have been together since I was a wee fourteen year old. He is without a doubt my best friend, my shoulder and my biggest supporter. But he doesn’t bring out the best in me, I do. 

I’m a traditional girl, I am all for the big wedding, the white dress and taking my husband’s name but I do wonder sometimes if some memes and old thought patterns really are sexist in the way they define important aspects of relationships. How I feel may not be everyone’s opinion, in fact I could be completely in the minority. However I don’t believe you can look into another person to bring out the best in you, especially if you can’t bring it out of yourself.

It’s not about self love, however that does help and should definitely be something you aspire to achieve before you can expect someone else to love you. It’s about being comfortable with who you are, being able to support yourself in your accomplishments and your failures. It’s about realising that being in a relationship is not about being dependant on someone, it’s about co-existing. It’s about being your best self because you want too. I don’t mean that you shouldn’t be with someone who you believe helps you to be a better version of yourself but you shouldn’t be dependent on someone to do something for you that you should do for yourself. At the end of the day no relationship is perfect and they shouldn’t be. You spend a lot of time with yourself, so you may as well enjoy the company!  

My husband doesnt bring out the best in me, I do. (And I wouldn’t have it any other way) 
Until next time 

BCM

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Best planners for 2017

Welcome back to Being Called Mum! We have been missing in action for a couple of months  now but here we are with a new look and a new post for 2017. We will be posting weekly from now on and would love to hear suggestions from you, our readers, on what you would like us to write about. 

But first we have a post on the best planners we have found for 2017. It is a little late but many of us aren’t very organised and will still need to track one down. Here’s the top 5 for 2017 that you can still get your mits on for the new year.
 

1. Erin Condren Life Planner 

Erin Condren has a mass following online and for good reason, her life planners are beautifully made and have everything one may ever need in a planner. You can customise the covers, add your name, pick the layout and the colour scheme. They are expensive, with the cheapest option beginning at $50 USD but a lot of people would say it’s totally worth it. You can get the Life planner here 

2. Personal planner 

Another great option for those of you who want to be able to customise their planner. You can chose your cover, your layout, the colour scheme and can add colouring pages, suduko or note pages to the back of the book. There are 5 size options, with the smallest (mini) starting at $29.95 and the largest (A4) priced at $59.95. All with free shipping you’d be a fool not to check them out!
3. Busy bitch daily planner 

This daily planner is full of sass and colourful illustrations. It contains packing lists, shopping lists and conversion charts. It’s a planner for those of you who want a daily layout with a humourous twist. Priced at $32.00 it as affordable as it is beautiful. Head over to That Effortless Bitch to purchase now.
4. Amelia Lane Paper life designer compact 

This planner is a gorgeous option for people who are looking for something that has sections for to do lists, finances, vision boards and weekly scheduling. Priced at $44.95 and available in sky blue and black. Head over to Amelia Lane to purchase before they sell out! 
5. Kikki K sweet diary 

This diary is for those of you who want something visually pleasing to plan your week in. Kikki K offers this sweet diary in A5 form for $34.95 and can be purchased here. However if sweet really isn’t your style I’d strongly suggest to head to Kikki K anyway as they offer options from a minimalistic diary to full on agendas so there really is something for everyone.
So there we have it, a round up of the best planners for 2017. Leave a comment below with what you are using to plan your new year, a suggestion for upcoming posts or anytjing else you’d like to share

 

Until next time, 

BCM 

The bond we share…

She’s six months old today, that’s right Rhemy Sharen is six months old! And what a wonderful, hilarious and beautiful six month old she is.

It’s so surreal when you look down at your baby and you realise that you have created something so gorgeous. It is amazing what the human body can do and what the end result is. 

Watching Rhemy grow and change everyday is what it is all about. I already loved her with everything I had before she born and I knew no matter what, I would do anything for her, to protect her and to be there for her. 

What I wasn’t as prepared for, was the bond we share at such a young age. We are already little besties, the way she looks at me, the trust she has in me and myself for her is out of this world. 

Knowing I have a very close relationship with my mum, you’d think I would have been expecting it, and I definitely was to some degree but not while Rhemy was so young, but here we are. 

She has such a big personality, she makes me laugh on the daily, her smile lights up my day, she’s as stubborn as they come and very persistent in what she wants (I wonder where she got that from?). She is my very best little friend, my heart wandering out of my body! 
Ask me about our bond when she is sixteen, when she is still stubborn and persistent in getting what she wants! 

New year, new me? 

It’s approaching! It is that time of year when we begin to hear all the promises from people to become a better version of themselves in one way or another. It is also when out come the critics, having their say on how stupid they believe new year resolutions are.

What camp are you in? Are you for resolutions of against? Myself, I am for them and I make them, I think they are great incentive to try and stick to something or to change a habit that you are unhappy with. I don’t always follow through but I try and I find no harm in that. 
This year in fact, I truly hope to become a more organised, together woman. I feel like my house is always a mess and my head in the clouds trying to work out what way is actually up! 2016 brings part time work and study so I will have limited time for everything and I know that being organised (or at least attempting to be) will help me stay on top of it all, so I am truly inspired to try and stick to my resolution this year. 
I have always had a diary/planner. I am normally very good about knowing what I have coming up and filling in the days accordingly but since Rhemy come along that has gone out the window, so 2016 I am coming for you! 
What’s your New Years Resolution? Or do you think they are just a waste of time? Let me know below! 

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