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The terrible twos! 

The terrible twos, we’ve all heard of it, a lot of us have experienced it and others are dealing with it right now. But how terrible are the ‘terrible twos’? 

I’m the latter, I’m completely in the middle of the terrible twos, we’ve got the tantrums and the blantant disregard of rules. But is it terrible? No, I don’t think so, I think there is a lot more to a toddler than we realise. 

I know a lot of people think this generation is too soft on their kids, but I think that is utter bullshit. We may parent differently than older generations but it doesn’t mean it’s the wrong way to parent – it’s just that, different.

I think the terrible twos are the time in a toddler’s life we they are beginning to learn about their emotions and how to handle and process them correctly. I know even as an adult,  this can be an extremely hard skill to master. (Some days I totally want to throw myself on the ground when I don’t get my way) Feelings are difficult to understand and toddlers are experiencing new ones all the time. It can be really overwhelming to feel extremely upset about something that they aren’t able (allowed) to do simply because they are too young or small. And that’s where pushing the boundaries begins to come into it, once they realise that they are aren’t allowed to do certain things, such as take toys off their sister (I wonder who does that?!) they want to find out if that rule applies every time and to everyone or only in that particular situation – I guess it really is the best way to learn. 

So I say that for the most part the terrible twos are not actually ‘terrible’, they are simply the phase in a child’s life where they are beginning to understand their emotions and that they have to behave a certain way, and sometimes it just becomes way too much!

Of course I’m not saying sometimes children aren’t naughty – because they are (don’t I know it) but I don’t believe in saying a particular age is terrible. Lets be real, children can be naughty at any age! 
Until next time, 

BCM

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Baby names we love but won’t be using… part 2 

Hi again, 

Last year I shared baby names we love but won’t be using and thought that I’d do it again, seeing as we had another visit to the baby books for our newest baby and had to go through the naming process all over again. (Isn’t that one of the hardest parts of having a baby) 
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This was a name my husband wanted for Rhemy, I liked it, but didn’t love it. We revisited it for Miami as he still really liked it, but I couldn’t commit. 

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This one I still love and my husband likes it too. It was a contender, but I guess Miami was just the winner this time.

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This was our boys name, we found out the gender of baby #2 as well, so we didn’t look at many boys names. 

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This was my baby girl name for as long as I can remember. I really don’t know why it wasn’t used for either girls, I guess it just never felt right.

5. 

Simple and elegant. I love this name, my husband loves this name. Just not enough. 

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I love this name for a girl, my husband wouldn’t budge! 

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We talked about Rosie, it has sentimental value to us, but I just didn’t like it with our surname. 

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I loved this for a girl, my husband didn’t hate it, but just wasn’t as big of a fan

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This was a high contender for Miami, we both really liked it, and then I changed my mind! 

I’d love to hear your names that you love but won’t be using, post them below in the comments. Share around with your friends and see their names, it can be a great source for names for other parents. It can be fun to see what a couples baby could have been named, etc.

Until next time 
BCM

Mummy guilt! 

I know I have talked about this on a lot of my blog platforms in one way or another but it is one that is most relevant to right now. One I think most (if not all) of us feel at one point or another. Mummy guilt! 

It’s a bitch! It creeps up on us when we don’t expect it too, when we are going about our every day, when we are working, when we are trying to sleep! 

I feel it a lot – I feel it for Rhemy and how quickly she had to grow up. For the moments she needs me and I can’t be there for her because her sister needs me more, for the times I realise I expect her to be older than she really is and for making her share us before she really had too. I feel it for Miami because she doesn’t get the attention she deserves, because I feel like I haven’t got the time to give to her like I gave to Rhemy, I feel it because I can’t always be there when she needs me to be and that she always has to share us. 

I blame myself when Rhemy is naughty – even though I know it’s the naughty twos! I blame myself when Miami isn’t crawling – even though I know kids do things in their own time! I blame myself when they are hurting and think of ways I could have prevented it – even though I know I really couldn’t have! I blame myself when I miss things when I’m at work – even though I know being at work means I can give them more.

Let me tell you though that mummy guilt subsides when I see them playing together, Miami laughing so hard and Rhemy being so kind. When Miami lights up when I see her and Rhemy tells me she loves me. When they hold hands because they want too or when Rhemy tries to show Miami how to crawl. 

Mummy guilt is a bitch but deep down I know I’m doing this mama thing right! 

Spoil yourself mama! 

I know that once children come into our lives, that our paychecks tend to go to them and honestly that’s how I believe it should be! It’s totally acceptable for the children to get the majority and the parents to go without. However I know my husband is reading this and wondering when I have ever gone without and that’s because sometimes I think it is totally acceptable to treat ourselves! 

Whether it be purchasing something new, getting pampered or going somewhere that we enjoy. We as adults deserve something for ourselves! My husband and I are really into spending time as a family so we like to spend money doing things all together. I enjoy getting my nails done on occasion and like to splurge on makeup and handbags, my husband also has his vices. We don’t go overboard but we do allow ourselves treats, Rhemy is our priority as are our bills etc, but we like things that make us happy too.

Not everyone will agree with me and that’s okay but I think it’s perfectly acceptable to do things to make yourself happy, even something simple such as a cappuccino before work instead of a instant coffee one morning a week. Im a firm believer that a happy house produces happy children! 
Share your thoughts below !
Until next time

B 🙂 

Morning sickness sucks! 

This week we ticked over 13 weeks pregnant with our newest bundle of joy! While I am beyond excited and truly can’t wait for our addition to join us, I would be lying if I said the last five weeks haven’t been testing. 

I’m just going to put it out there – morning sickness sucks! I am sick most days and it lasts all day! Work feels long and I’m tired all the time. I’m napping when Rhemy is and I am finding it difficult to keep on top of my uni and housework. So to my friends I’m sorry I’m always tired, my house a mess and my mind a jumble. I’ll come good, I promise! 

  

I’ve come to the conclusion that pregnany doesn’t agree with me and that’s okay. When I was younger I had a water bottle that I used when playing sport that had “no pain, no gain” printed on the side of it. Pregnancy for me reminds me of that quote. The gain I get out of it is totally worth it and something I definitely don’t take for granted! But I’d be kidding myself if I said there wasn’t some kind of “pain” and that’s not even considering the actual birth! 

How’d you get on? Was pregnancy a breeze for you or did you vomit for 30 weeks? 

Do you have any morning sickness remedies? Cause please share them if you do! 

Until next time, 

Brylee-Peta 

xo

What being a mother means to me! 

I thought seeing as today is Mother’s Day, I would share with you all what being a mother truly means to me. 
I am forever grateful for having Rhemy in my life as I realise how difficult it can be for some amazing ladies to have the children they deeply desire. I am extremely lucky and have been blessed with a happy and healthy baby girl. One who keeps me on my toes, challenges me and makes me laugh on the daily. She is my biggest achievement in life and the one person I am most proud of. 

I always knew I wanted to be a mother, I knew I would love it, try to to excel at it and learn from it every single day. And I was right, so very right! Some days are hard, Rhemy doesn’t want to nap, would rather cry about not much and cling to me for the entire day. Other days we play and laugh and she sleeps for 4 hours. Without those “hard” days, I wouldn’t truly appreciate the “good” days, I wouldn’t get hour long cuddles and I wouldn’t want to share her with her father when he got home from work. 

My daughter is my legacy, my family. She is my heart wandering around outside my body. I never knew what it was like to love someone so much until she came along.. and that is what being a mother means to me! 

 

Goodbye unwanted lady lumps! 

As soon as the eggs were handed out for Easter today, all I could think about is how I really need to get healthy and get back into shape! One of my best friends just asked me to be a bridesmaid in her upcoming nuptials, another is also getting married within 12 months and I really don’t want to see myself in photos and wince! 

So I’ve set our family a challenge! We will eat well, treat ourselves less, drink more water and try to exercise every second day. Whether that is going to the gym (which I try to do three times a week with my mum and her friend) or going for a family walk! Rhemy loves being taken on walks in her smart trike and her doggy Tilly just loves to get out. It is so easy for me to say, I don’t have the time at the end of long days when I truly can’t be bothered! However I am trying to start this change to my lifestyle!  It’s time to take care of myself (and my family).

The “challenge” will be starting on Wednesday (as its my first day back to the gym) and I will check back every few weeks to let you know how my little family is going. I will share tips, healthy recipes and my failures. I will be open and honest with you all so hopefully you guys can help me along the way! 
Here’s to the start of being healthy, of feeling good and hopefully losing weight! Join me? 

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My Mama always told me…

Today, I’m going to share some things my mother always told me, that I intend to use myself as my child grows. 

1. “We will see”; growing up I always thought that when my mum said “we will see” that she meant it, however as I have gotten older, she disclosed to me, that she used this to see how much I wanted something before having to even consider giving me an answer. If I wasn’t asking for it a couple of days later, obviously it wasn’t that important. Cheeky (clever) mum!! 

2. “If you have done something, it’s best to tell me first. It’s better for me to hear it from you then from someone else”; I was always told that if I did something, I knew was wrong or that I knew my mother would disapprove of, then it was always best if I told her first. I grew up in a small town, and my daughter will too, so it is inevitable that word gets around. It’s true that other people love to dish the dirt and it took the fun out of it for the gossipers if mum already knew! 
3. “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”; self explanatory, used by many! But in a world dominated by social media and keyboard warriors, I believe it is now more important then ever, that my child learns to keep nasty thoughts and comments to herself! No one likes a bully! 
4. “It’s more important to participate, then to be the best”; I grew up playing sport, keeping my parents’ weekends full and wallets empty. I was taught, that I may not be good at everything (ain’t that the truth) but that I should always give it a go. Sport and other hobbies, allow kids to meet new people, develop skills and confidence. I look forward to passing this onto my offspring. 
5.”I’m your mum first, your friend second!”; I have always been close with my mum, it’s always been a wonderful relationship. But when I was younger, when it mattered most. I was taught that while we might have a close friendship, that she is my mum first, friend second. Now I’m older that has changed but especially as an adolescent I think it’s extremely important that these lines don’t become blurred. So Rhemy Sharen, I say to you, I will always be your friend, but first I will always be your mother! 
What traits, sayings, tricks has your mother passed down to you? 
Share below! 

Motherhood in rhyme.

My house is a mess and so is my hair, 

I’m sure people see me and think I don’t care. 

My makeup is forgotten and my clothes too small, 

But as far as I can tell I have got it all. 

My glasses have smudges and jewellery gets broken, 

But how exciting it is to hear first words spoken. 

My times not my own and my personal space is non-existent, 

But it’s amazing seeing baby try to crawl being so persistent. 

When baby wants me and stares into my eyes, 

I forget all the nights I’ve woken to hourly cries. 

When we play together and she begins to coo, 

I forget all the times she has covered me in spew. 

I may sometimes look tired and have no energy left, 

But this is the most incredible job I’ve got to do yet! 

My life isn’t glamorous or what everyone desires, 

But being a mother and having my family is all I require.