My Mama always told me…

Today, I’m going to share some things my mother always told me, that I intend to use myself as my child grows. 

1. “We will see”; growing up I always thought that when my mum said “we will see” that she meant it, however as I have gotten older, she disclosed to me, that she used this to see how much I wanted something before having to even consider giving me an answer. If I wasn’t asking for it a couple of days later, obviously it wasn’t that important. Cheeky (clever) mum!! 

2. “If you have done something, it’s best to tell me first. It’s better for me to hear it from you then from someone else”; I was always told that if I did something, I knew was wrong or that I knew my mother would disapprove of, then it was always best if I told her first. I grew up in a small town, and my daughter will too, so it is inevitable that word gets around. It’s true that other people love to dish the dirt and it took the fun out of it for the gossipers if mum already knew! 
3. “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”; self explanatory, used by many! But in a world dominated by social media and keyboard warriors, I believe it is now more important then ever, that my child learns to keep nasty thoughts and comments to herself! No one likes a bully! 
4. “It’s more important to participate, then to be the best”; I grew up playing sport, keeping my parents’ weekends full and wallets empty. I was taught, that I may not be good at everything (ain’t that the truth) but that I should always give it a go. Sport and other hobbies, allow kids to meet new people, develop skills and confidence. I look forward to passing this onto my offspring. 
5.”I’m your mum first, your friend second!”; I have always been close with my mum, it’s always been a wonderful relationship. But when I was younger, when it mattered most. I was taught that while we might have a close friendship, that she is my mum first, friend second. Now I’m older that has changed but especially as an adolescent I think it’s extremely important that these lines don’t become blurred. So Rhemy Sharen, I say to you, I will always be your friend, but first I will always be your mother! 
What traits, sayings, tricks has your mother passed down to you? 
Share below! 

It may controversial but..

Is it just me, or is anyone else over all the “controversial” posts everyone puts up these days? I am so over someone’s person opinion of what they feel works for their family being labelled as controversial. I don’t agree with most things I read, I have a very particular idea of how I intend to bring up my child but that does not mean I judge others for their choices. 
I haven’t breastfed my baby since she was 2.5months old, she has slept in her nursery since we came home from Adelaide (at two weeks old). She eats packet baby food, loves her dummy and sometimes sleeps in our bed. My choices probably make many shudder,  I mean who would give their baby food that wasn’t organic? But to that I say a big eff you! My choices are exactly that, my choices. If you are not hurting anyone, then really it is no one else’s business! 
To anyone who is co-sleeping, exclusively breastfeeding, exclusively bottle feeding, to the Mummas that work full time and the ones that are staying at home with their kids, I give you all, a big high five! We are all working towards the same goal to bring up wonderful children, in a sometimes shitty world! So next time you find yourself labelling someone, or judging perhaps you should shut up and try giving them a pat on the back instead!
We are all doing a wonderful job, the only way we know how! 

Why I blog and why you should too! 

Statistics say that the internet is inundated with over 150 million blogs! Some extremely successful, some not so much. None the less it is something a lot of people are finding themselves participating in at one point in their lives. 
Here’s four reasons why I blog, and why maybe you should be too. 

1. It is a great outlet! I find that writing soothes me, gives me time to reflect on our week and allows me to give all of myself to something other then someone else’s needs for a while! It is my creative outlet, my input to the online world. 

2. The blogging community! No matter what subject you write about there is thousands of other people writing about and interested in the same topic, which means there is a huge community of people who are there to discuss your passion. It is nice to be part of supportive group that encourages you to continue your passion.
3. Blogging is a way to open up a new interest. Being part of the blogging community means that you are more inclined to explore all types of blogs, on all different topics. This means that you are exposed to things that maybe you would not have had an interest in, prior to entering this online world. If you want to learn to cook, there are recipes for all tastebuds, ever wanted to do a homeware DIY? There’s a post for that too! 
4. Blogging can eventually turn an income. Now this doesn’t happen for everyone and takes a lot of hard work and persistence but sometimes blogging can turn into a way to make money. Some people even end up positing full time! Really how awesome could that be! 
Now turn that computer on head over to WordPress or any other blogging platform and begin blogging. I promise you will never look back! 

Instagramming Mothers! 

Before I was a mum, I used Instagram to follow friends, the occasional celebrity and for searching hashtags of whatever products I was lusting after that month. Now that I am quiet a regular on Instagram I have become addicted to the world of instagramming mothers! 
Whether they are fellow bloggers, brand reps for companies or the owner of small businesses (such as my talented friend who made the gorgeous pixie bonnet Rhemy is wearing above). They are everywhere, uploading photos by the masses of adorable babies,toddlers and children, and the following is just as huge as those contributing! Everyone that is part of this community tries to support each other’s business and their children are often snapped wearing a multitude of brands. 

I personally find it so uplifting and inspiring that such a group exists. While some may not like that it is online, I do. It’s convenient and available when you are. I love seeing how creative some mothers (and fathers) are. It is impressive to see how much a one or two person team can produce. It motivates me to blog more, to try and better myself in my life. 

Next time you find yourself wanting to buy something for someone in your life, not even necessarily for children, do yourself and search #shopsmall or #supportsmallbusiness on Instagram you may be surprised by what you come across. 
Links for items Rhemy wears in featured image; 

‘Rosie’ Pixie bonnet: Bear and Scout 

http://bearandscout.bigcartel.com

Linen suspender bloomers: Penny n Co

http://pennynco.com.au/

Unfriending! 

I sat down to write and I wasn’t sure if this is a topic I should really touch on or not. But I figured we’ve all done it, we’ve all had it done to us and right now we are probably considering it. The good old “unfriending” on social media! 

To be completely honest, this is one of the things I hate about social media the most! In “real” life when we are sick of someone or hurt by something they did, we avoid them for a while or stop talking to them all together. On Facebook when you push that unfriend button, the person you have “unfriended” may not be aware straight away but eventually they will know! It’s kinda shit! It creates unnecessary ill feelings and it is very easy for people to become caught up in how many “friends” they have and why someone would choose not to accept their friend request or to delete them from their list.

 I have over 500 friends on Facebook and how many do I talk to? 50, maybe more but certainly not often! How many have I unfollowed so I don’t have to see their stuff? More than I’d like to admit! I try not to delete friends because I would hate for them to know, but I have been guilty of it in the past. I make no apology for that. I have also been deleted and blocked and that’s okay. 

I feel this part of social media can create issues, people get so caught up in popularity online and it eventually consumes them. Technology is so advanced that most things can be done at the press of a button. Truthfully I love it, but it means that people can act on their emotions and can do things that maybe once they had settled down or had time to think, they wouldn’t have? That includes airing their dirty laundry, but that’s another story for another day. 
What do you think? Let me know below! 
📸 featured image: thegoodvibe.co

Where has my baby gone? 

Does anyone else feel like you have blinked and it’s already nearing the end of February? I swear it was a month ago Rhemy was born! She is now 7.5 months and the most roll-a-licious bub going round! She has said “dada” “bub” and “mum” although she certainly favours “dada” not to everyone’s excitement haha! 

She is so close to crawling, that it is  just frustrating for her! She rolls and pushes her self around everywhere and I can’t take my eyes off her for two seconds! She’s sassy and hilarious! She loves the theme songs to nearly every Disney junior cartoon and has a huge soft spot for Doc Mcstuffins! She wears a size 0 and I don’t think she will be too far out of a moving up to a size 1! If only they made them a tad shorter! 🙈 Lunch and dinner are when she has solids and she eats so much of it! Her bottles aren’t wanted nearly as often and she watches everyone eat, waiting for them to share!
She has started waking through the night again! I’m missing my beauty sleep for my little miss wanting company! Don’t get me wrong I love just hanging out with her but not at 2am! She screams when she doesn’t get her way and is so rough with her toys! She has no teeth yet and vomits very often! On the floor, on her clean clothes, on my face! 
All of this just makes Rhemy, Rhemy! I wouldn’t have her any other way! Bring on the next 7.5 months of adventures but it can slow down! 

Chronicles of a first time mama! 

Well as many first time mamas know, it is certainly a journey finding your groove in this whole new world of parenting. The type of parent you thought you would be, you normally end up nothing like. The time to yourself you thought you would miss, you don’t at all. The things you thought you wouldn’t cope with (dirty nappies, sleepless nights) don’t seem anywhere near as bad as you had imagined. 

It is literally like I am learning blindfolded. Every time I feel like I am getting the hang of this mothering thing, Rhemy goes and changes something and I am lost all over again! I find some days exhausting and others a breeze! I can read her ques like no one else and can’t get enough of everything she does. Everytime she does something for the first time, it is the first time I have seen someone learn them too! Every milestone for her, is a milestone for me! 

I’ve developed a dependance to Nespresso and a tolerance to kid’s tv shows! I have an unhealthy obsession with baby headbands and clothes. I love being with my little girl everyday. I find myself doing the most ridiculous things to get that one small laugh! I suck at nursery rhymes so I sing whatever I can, cause it makes her happy! I don’t need the sleep I once did and as long as she looks gorgeous when we leave the house, who gives a shit about what I look like?  To be honest I like who I have become since Rhemy! Whether I meant to or not, I changed and I think for the better. I was selfish before, most young people are. Now while I believe parents deserve to be spoilt sometimes, the children should come first! I have done that. She gets whatever she needs or wants and if that means we go without so be it! 
Comment below, share our changes, our experiences and obsessions ! 

Motherhood in rhyme.

My house is a mess and so is my hair, 

I’m sure people see me and think I don’t care

My makeup is forgotten and my clothes too small, 

But as far as I can tell I have got it all

My glasses have smudges and jewellery gets broken

But how exciting it is to hear first words spoken. 

My times not my own and my personal space is non-existent

But it’s amazing seeing baby try to crawl being so persistent

When baby wants me and stares into my eyes

I forget all the nights I’ve woken to hourly cries. 

When we play together and she begins to coo, 

I forget all the times she has covered me in spew

I may sometimes look tired and have no energy left, 

But this is the most incredible job I’ve got to do yet! 

My life isn’t glamorous or what everyone desires, 

But being a mother and having my family is all I require

Nursery rhymes suck! 

There is no way to say this other than I suck at nursery rhymes! How do all you new mothers know all the words to nursery rhymes? I have no clue! Literally! Is there like a course you can attend that teaches you the lyrics to these songs? Did I miss the enrolment? 

I rock Rhemy to sleep in my rocking chair sometimes and she loves Hush Little Baby! I thought I knew the words until I turned to YouTube and I was way off! I know you can make that one up as you want but I didn’t even know how the song ends! Even at swimming lessons which we have just started they sing nursery rhymes and change them slightly to make them relevant to the pool which is fine but I didn’t even know the originals let alone the revised version! 

  She loves me whether I know the lyrics or not!  Right? 😂

Don’t get me wrong, I knew them when I was a child, my mum even worked as a kindergym instructor for a period of time but that was years ago and as it turns out my memory sucks
What did you have to learn (or relearn) when your child/ren come along? Share in the comments make me feel better!
📸 featured image credit: http://www.loving2learn.com

5 wishes for baby 

I thought for this post it would be fun to share with you all my five wishes, hopes and dreams for Rhemy as she takes this journey through life.
1. Courage. I hope you have the courage to pass through your life following your dreams and being able to stand up for your beliefs. To push yourself to the limit and be courageous in all that you try to do. 
2. Education. I hope you are educated in whatever your choose to do. Whether aquiring a university degree is necessary or learning on the job. 

3. Knowing your worth. I hope and will do my best to ensure that you grow up knowing your worth and that you ensure others know it and respect it too. You are worth the world and it’s important to me that you believe that!

4. Happiness and Love. I want your life to be filled with happiness and love in every aspect of your world! 

5. Passion. I wish for you to find your passion in life and that you are able to follow it with all your heart. Daddy and I will do everything we can to give you all the opportunities you require. 
I would love to hear your hopes and dreams for your offspring so please comment at the end of the post sharing them with me!