If we are going to be friends.. 

If we are going to be friends I think it is a good idea to share with you some facts about me! Maybe you will find we have a lot in common, maybe you will find –  we do not! 
I am a little (okay, a lot) obsessed with Friends, the TV show. I watch them constantly, it is my happy place. I can (and do) quote parts of episodes. My family (dad, in particular) is also bad for this. 
I am somewhat nerdy, I’m really into the new tech items that get released. My Apple Watch is one of my best Christmas presents to date. I may have got up at 2.30am last year just to watch the apple conference, so I knew what was coming out and when. 
I am utterly obsessed with handbags, this obsession has been around for as long as I can remember. Louis Vuitton is my favourite brand, but I’m really into almost anything.
I started wearing  glasses all the time when I was 22, and I have hated them ever since! My husband also wears them, but unfortunately for him he has had them since he was a baby. One day, when we can afford it, we both would like to get laser. 
I am studying Bachelor of Education – early childhood. I do this online, and struggle to find the time to study. I am trying and not overly succeeding to find a balance that works. 
I have been a dental assistant since I was 16, I enjoy my job, but can’t wait until I become a teacher. 
Now your turn, tell me about you. I’d love to know the your quirks, if we are going to be friends. 

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My Mama always told me…

Today, I’m going to share some things my mother always told me, that I intend to use myself as my child grows. 

1. “We will see”; growing up I always thought that when my mum said “we will see” that she meant it, however as I have gotten older, she disclosed to me, that she used this to see how much I wanted something before having to even consider giving me an answer. If I wasn’t asking for it a couple of days later, obviously it wasn’t that important. Cheeky (clever) mum!! 

2. “If you have done something, it’s best to tell me first. It’s better for me to hear it from you then from someone else”; I was always told that if I did something, I knew was wrong or that I knew my mother would disapprove of, then it was always best if I told her first. I grew up in a small town, and my daughter will too, so it is inevitable that word gets around. It’s true that other people love to dish the dirt and it took the fun out of it for the gossipers if mum already knew! 
3. “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”; self explanatory, used by many! But in a world dominated by social media and keyboard warriors, I believe it is now more important then ever, that my child learns to keep nasty thoughts and comments to herself! No one likes a bully! 
4. “It’s more important to participate, then to be the best”; I grew up playing sport, keeping my parents’ weekends full and wallets empty. I was taught, that I may not be good at everything (ain’t that the truth) but that I should always give it a go. Sport and other hobbies, allow kids to meet new people, develop skills and confidence. I look forward to passing this onto my offspring. 
5.”I’m your mum first, your friend second!”; I have always been close with my mum, it’s always been a wonderful relationship. But when I was younger, when it mattered most. I was taught that while we might have a close friendship, that she is my mum first, friend second. Now I’m older that has changed but especially as an adolescent I think it’s extremely important that these lines don’t become blurred. So Rhemy Sharen, I say to you, I will always be your friend, but first I will always be your mother! 
What traits, sayings, tricks has your mother passed down to you? 
Share below! 

Unfriending! 

I sat down to write and I wasn’t sure if this is a topic I should really touch on or not. But I figured we’ve all done it, we’ve all had it done to us and right now we are probably considering it. The good old “unfriending” on social media! 

To be completely honest, this is one of the things I hate about social media the most! In “real” life when we are sick of someone or hurt by something they did, we avoid them for a while or stop talking to them all together. On Facebook when you push that unfriend button, the person you have “unfriended” may not be aware straight away but eventually they will know! It’s kinda shit! It creates unnecessary ill feelings and it is very easy for people to become caught up in how many “friends” they have and why someone would choose not to accept their friend request or to delete them from their list.

 I have over 500 friends on Facebook and how many do I talk to? 50, maybe more but certainly not often! How many have I unfollowed so I don’t have to see their stuff? More than I’d like to admit! I try not to delete friends because I would hate for them to know, but I have been guilty of it in the past. I make no apology for that. I have also been deleted and blocked and that’s okay. 

I feel this part of social media can create issues, people get so caught up in popularity online and it eventually consumes them. Technology is so advanced that most things can be done at the press of a button. Truthfully I love it, but it means that people can act on their emotions and can do things that maybe once they had settled down or had time to think, they wouldn’t have? That includes airing their dirty laundry, but that’s another story for another day. 
What do you think? Let me know below! 
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Where has my baby gone? 

Does anyone else feel like you have blinked and it’s already nearing the end of February? I swear it was a month ago Rhemy was born! She is now 7.5 months and the most roll-a-licious bub going round! She has said “dada” “bub” and “mum” although she certainly favours “dada” not to everyone’s excitement haha! 

She is so close to crawling, that it is  just frustrating for her! She rolls and pushes her self around everywhere and I can’t take my eyes off her for two seconds! She’s sassy and hilarious! She loves the theme songs to nearly every Disney junior cartoon and has a huge soft spot for Doc Mcstuffins! She wears a size 0 and I don’t think she will be too far out of a moving up to a size 1! If only they made them a tad shorter! 🙈 Lunch and dinner are when she has solids and she eats so much of it! Her bottles aren’t wanted nearly as often and she watches everyone eat, waiting for them to share!
She has started waking through the night again! I’m missing my beauty sleep for my little miss wanting company! Don’t get me wrong I love just hanging out with her but not at 2am! She screams when she doesn’t get her way and is so rough with her toys! She has no teeth yet and vomits very often! On the floor, on her clean clothes, on my face! 
All of this just makes Rhemy, Rhemy! I wouldn’t have her any other way! Bring on the next 7.5 months of adventures but it can slow down! 

#likeaqueen

While scrolling through Facebook the other day I saw Constance Hall post about the queen in her life and was asking others to do the same. The queen could be anyone that you consider to have had the most impact on your life, on who you are or just is point blank –  kick arse! I thought it was a fabulous idea and thought there was no better way to share then here on my blog!

    
The queen in my life is my mum! No surprise to most I’m sure! She has impacted my life in ways she probably will never know, she has helped and supported me in becoming the person I am today and is just all round a kick arse Mumma! We have gone from being just mother and daughter to the best of friends and she has done everything in her power to do whatever she can for my brother and I. Now I am married and have my own offspring she does whatever she can for my husband and baby too! 
My mum taught me to be myself, to stand up for I believe was right and shown me its okay to be different from everyone else! She encouraged me (and my brother) to chase our dreams to never give up and be grateful for what we had. I was taught people deserve second chances, but sometimes they don’t! That no bullshit means never having to pretend and that lieing means always having to remember the lie! We grew up spoilt but appreciative. We were spoilt with time and love just as much if not more, then with things. 

Mum was 23 when she had me, 19 when she got married. 30 years later they are still together, some days she wants to kill my dad, don’t we all (sorry Nev) but they are still there working as a team. Their relationship taught me its okay to speak your mind, that all should be equal and how wonderful it is to come home to a happy house everyday! 

I hope one day my daughter and I can have half the relationship me and my mother have. That she follows the same morals and ethics that my mother passed on to me. That she is stands up for herself and becomes her own person! Because that’s the legacy my mum would like to see! 

Chronicles of a first time mama! 

Well as many first time mamas know, it is certainly a journey finding your groove in this whole new world of parenting. The type of parent you thought you would be, you normally end up nothing like. The time to yourself you thought you would miss, you don’t at all. The things you thought you wouldn’t cope with (dirty nappies, sleepless nights) don’t seem anywhere near as bad as you had imagined. 

It is literally like I am learning blindfolded. Every time I feel like I am getting the hang of this mothering thing, Rhemy goes and changes something and I am lost all over again! I find some days exhausting and others a breeze! I can read her ques like no one else and can’t get enough of everything she does. Everytime she does something for the first time, it is the first time I have seen someone learn them too! Every milestone for her, is a milestone for me! 

I’ve developed a dependance to Nespresso and a tolerance to kid’s tv shows! I have an unhealthy obsession with baby headbands and clothes. I love being with my little girl everyday. I find myself doing the most ridiculous things to get that one small laugh! I suck at nursery rhymes so I sing whatever I can, cause it makes her happy! I don’t need the sleep I once did and as long as she looks gorgeous when we leave the house, who gives a shit about what I look like?  To be honest I like who I have become since Rhemy! Whether I meant to or not, I changed and I think for the better. I was selfish before, most young people are. Now while I believe parents deserve to be spoilt sometimes, the children should come first! I have done that. She gets whatever she needs or wants and if that means we go without so be it! 
Comment below, share our changes, our experiences and obsessions ! 

Social media blues! 

I was listening to triple j on the radio yesterday and they were talking about Instagram and social media in general creating unrealistic expectations in people’s lives. They were referring to “clean eating” and all the gym selfies and how young and old people alike are putting pressure on themselves to be like these b grade celebrities. 
To be honest I couldn’t agree more, I think that the comparisons and expectations go much further then just gym selfies. I believe people compare their everyday life with the glorified version celebrities and even their friends share on social media. People are only going to share good moments and essentially what we see is a highlight reel of ones life. It’s not the argument they had their with best friend, the moment of weakness while dieting, the mundane day to day life with their husband. 
I personally have struggled with seeing so many people lose their baby bulge so quickly when I really haven’t. I could sit here and fib and tell you I have done everything right, but in reality that is just not true. I enjoy bad foods,  wine and soft drink. I don’t exercise enough and I lack motivation to make any real change. Yet seeing celebrities and my friends on social media bouncing back so quickly does get to me. I compare myself and feel guilty for not doing more sooner. 
What does social media do to you? I love it, it certainly has its place and has its benefits but there is a darker side to it. Comment below and let me know.  

Inspiration to keep organised! 

I know I told you all that my New Years resolution was to get organised! And for once I really, really want to stick to my resolution! I have decided to keep on top on everything I need to inspire myself! I’ve decided a pretty planner, that makes me happy when I open it is a great start. It’s also a great creative outlet and time for me! (Let’s face it, as mums we all love me time!) It’s one thing to get organised it’s another to stay organised! 

  

I have turned into a real planner “nerd” and I know it’s not understood by many and a lot of you may think I am crazy but Im hoping a lot of people can relate (and I’m not alone)! So I have put my life into sections, I have a spot for this blog and then a calendar where all our appointments,  my work days, my husbands work days and Rhemys activities are tracked. I have an area for expenses as we are also trying to be better with our finances too! It’s already filling up and I am feeling much more relaxed and on top of what is going on. 

As for university I have decided I am going to keep that seperate! I don’t have the space for it in this one and I think it is better if I keep it seperate from my day to day life. Study reminders and assignment due dates and tracking my readings will take up so much room that I want somewhere that I won’t worry about making pretty just functional! 

Our life is hectic, my days are full and this is truly helping. What do you do to keep organised? What do you do to relax or have mummy time? Comment below and let me know! 
Planner from: http://www.kikki.com.au

*gifted to me from my brother. 


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Motherhood in rhyme.

My house is a mess and so is my hair, 

I’m sure people see me and think I don’t care

My makeup is forgotten and my clothes too small, 

But as far as I can tell I have got it all

My glasses have smudges and jewellery gets broken

But how exciting it is to hear first words spoken. 

My times not my own and my personal space is non-existent

But it’s amazing seeing baby try to crawl being so persistent

When baby wants me and stares into my eyes

I forget all the nights I’ve woken to hourly cries. 

When we play together and she begins to coo, 

I forget all the times she has covered me in spew

I may sometimes look tired and have no energy left, 

But this is the most incredible job I’ve got to do yet! 

My life isn’t glamorous or what everyone desires, 

But being a mother and having my family is all I require

Nursery rhymes suck! 

There is no way to say this other than I suck at nursery rhymes! How do all you new mothers know all the words to nursery rhymes? I have no clue! Literally! Is there like a course you can attend that teaches you the lyrics to these songs? Did I miss the enrolment? 

I rock Rhemy to sleep in my rocking chair sometimes and she loves Hush Little Baby! I thought I knew the words until I turned to YouTube and I was way off! I know you can make that one up as you want but I didn’t even know how the song ends! Even at swimming lessons which we have just started they sing nursery rhymes and change them slightly to make them relevant to the pool which is fine but I didn’t even know the originals let alone the revised version! 

  She loves me whether I know the lyrics or not!  Right? 😂

Don’t get me wrong, I knew them when I was a child, my mum even worked as a kindergym instructor for a period of time but that was years ago and as it turns out my memory sucks
What did you have to learn (or relearn) when your child/ren come along? Share in the comments make me feel better!
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